Visualize your failure…

There’s a lot more than meets the eye when we visualize failure. Iceberg wisdom in a photo taken near Svalbard, Norway. (photo by Wendi Pillars)

…in order to succeed.

There’s a LOT of talk about how imagining yourself achieving your goals and your heart’s desire can speed up its fruition. I’ve even pushed my students and clients a little further, encouraging them to imagine others’ reactions to their success! It’s a little misleading, though, since all of this visualizing tends to focus more on the outcome than on the process(es) that will get them where they want to be.

There are a lot of people I have worked with through the years who do “all the right things” to manifest their dreams and successes, yet fail demonstrably. “But I write my goal down everyday and think about it!” “I have my goal posted to see everyday and it motivates me more!” “I’ve told my friends what I want and even posted it on social media, so I’ve made it public!” These are all great ideas, especially when they promote accountability.

Alas, the goals were not meant to be, the eager goal-setters were disappointed and thus began the downward spiral. Mental  

Mental contrasting is an activity (and phrase) attributed to Gabrielle Oettingen, a motivation psychologist who has shown its benefits in various realms of human behavior. From academic success to dietary shifts and habit formation, mental contrasting has helped people worldwide achieve greater success through one simple extra step.

They imagine what could go wrong, the obstacles they might encounter along their pathway. In doing so, they equip themselves with a backup plan, a defense, and more transparency in their “blind spots”. Naive optimism isn’t helpful, and mental contrasting helps big thinkers remember their constraints of reality. It reminds us that life has a way of showering humility upon us when we’re least expecting it.

Many of us already do some sort of mental contrasting. It’s akin to the stoic version of negative visualization, in which stoic philosophers would run through all the things that could go wrong so as to prevent surprise and disruption. Working that into your plans can be pretty helpful as we learn to manage our expectations, even on a daily basis.

My greatest takeaway from all of this is that there are millions of factors outside our control, so we shouldn’t be surprised when things go awry. But if we anticipate imperfection in our so-called perfect plans, we are far less likely to be completely derailed by the obstacles we inevitably face.

And of course, clearly indicating possible obstacles on a tangible, sketched out plan, will ensure that everyone on your team will be equally equipped to handle the unknown and persist regardless.

That, dear readers, is you’ll actually become more successful when you visualize your failure.

Reconsider one goal on your vision board. Think of 3-5 things that could go wrong. (Get your team to help if that’s your context.) Be realistic. Then go out and crush your process, and go after what you want. You’re a lot more equipped for success now.

Achieve your legacy with this one action

I read once that most people spend more time planning a holiday than they spend on setting goals for their lives.

I thought, “No…that can’t be true…”, then started thinking about my own life. I know this is the Time of COVID and most norms have flown out the window, but yeah, I was guilty of not being specific about goals and reviewing them on a daily basis. Sure, I have goals, but many are related to my son and short-term successes at work. And I definitely haven’t been writing them down for daily review.

I mean, who has time for lifetime legacy goals? Isn’t that selfish?

Jim Rohn implores those who want to be successful to write those goals down. And THEN revisit them every single day. Ideally you would even re-write them each day!


Legacy is that “gift” you leave behind that inspires others to do more, be more, and serve more. If you are gearing your work and talents to serve others or the world in some capacity, that is not selfish.

You are your greatest asset. How will you show up ready to achieve what you truly want? Here’s the secret:  set your goal, visualize what you want, define and describe it in detail and write it down. The highest achievers write their goals down in vivid detail. And revisit them consistently. It sounds easy, but very few people set any goals at all. A small percentage of people set goals and write them down, but fewer than 1% of people write their goals down AND review them on a daily basis.

Decide what you want to achieve. Write it down. Review it. Repeat daily.

That’s crazy, isn’t it? Just by writing down your goal, picturing it vividly and reviewing it consistently, you’re more likely to achieve success. Imagine doing this on a personal level, with family members, and on a team or organizational level. With all the uncertainties COVID-19 has wrought, this is the time to get clear on your next steps.

There’s magic in those markers, so get visual and achieve more.